Growing up I often felt saying no, cutting people out or even having any form of issues makes me unloveable. Crazy? I know.
The thing about it? We beings are adept at integrating into our environment. That is why as I shift and grow towards living in the light? It involves a series of unlearning and relearning. Now don’t get me wrong. I am thankful for everything that has occurred in my life. It has in it’s own way led me to where I am.
If anything? It has gifted me with a deeper appreciation for where I am at and who I am. I have learnt and am still learning to be gentle with myself and concurrently nudge (push? haha) my brothers along that direction too.
Three lessons that are imperative towards living in my truth which is also seen as living in your light.
1. Own Your Shit: I remember the very first time I had an ephiphany that I am nitpicking at others cause it’s easier to look outwards than in had me mindblown. And it effectively made me realise how little time we have to be looking at others’ when we mind ourselves instead! Always remember each and everyone of us has baggage and narratives that we live by. Some of which are so entrenched that formulates the totality of who we deem ourselves. Owning our shit means diving deep, unpacking the years of excuses, trauma and fears to rediscover ourselves as we are and who we truly want to be.
2. Be A Badass with Boundaries: I’ve always been a sucker for being bad. (not bad bad, if you get what I mean) More like wanting to be cool? Anyhows, I digress. Having boundaries is a topic that can span across various blogposts, vlogs and even face to face conversations! It’ll never end. To me it means knowing you have the choice to disengage when you need to. You owe noone a reason for what you do. It is a form of self care to ensure you are in abundance prior to then letting your cup spillover.
3. Sitting With Your Feelings
These three babies are oh-so-important but this one? This takes the cake. I don’t remember when I started but what I recall is how I look at myself thrrough an extremely critical eye. It’s little wonder that I didn’t feel very loved. I wasn’t exactly loving myself before. Thankfully over the years I have learnt how to better love msyelf. Sitting with your feelings doesn’t mean enduring or wallowing how you feel. It means to acknowledge your feelings as they are and to then make a conscious choice to choose better. Cause in every exchange, in that moment you always have the choice to pick.
As I look at where I am at and where I used to be? I’m thankful for how life is so much brighter and I am (still) learning to live and choose better. It’s a neverending journey. Hope everyone is enjoying the extended weekends.
Lemme know if any of the above resonates for you!
